Wednesday, 3 February 2016

Can relationships work at Uni?


I've blogged a lot about the changes which everyone goes through when going to Uni; leaving your family, your best friends (and your pets). But I realised that I've missed out one (pretty big) change...which is going to Uni when you're in a relationship.

I had mixed emotions when it dawned on me that whilst I'd be moving away to a new city, he'd be back at home carrying on with his apprenticeship. On one hand I thought OMG HOW WILL IT EVER WORK...and on the other hand I thought, you know what, whatever happens happens. Callum however took the opposite approach and refused to talk about it until pretty much the day before.

In the first few days of being here, one of the most common questions asked was "who's in a relationship?". I was hence bombarded with crazy 'facts' such as "80% of couples won't make it through University" and "9/10 couples will break up before Christmas". That was a little bit daunting but I didn't really dwell on it too much.

It's been very different to what I first thought. At first I found it difficult to manage settling in to Uni, working, socialising, seeing my friends and seeing my boyfriend. But we've been able to meet up more than what we originally decided (once every two weeks)...mainly because I always seem to 'accidentally' end up back at home. But of course, there are some is more difficult for my boyfriend as he is back at home working whilst I'm having a brill time (and working hard too, obviously). Also with Uni being constantly busy it can be to find time to talk every day.

Overall, if you're nervous about going to University and being in a relationship at the same time, don't be! I tried to look at the positives- all the new experiences you can have exploring a new city together and showing him/her around your new home. We've had some fab days in the Peak District, exploring the city centre and Meadowhall (maybe the latter was not so fab for Callum). We've also discovered some really cool new restaurants and started cooking together when he comes to Sheffield (a spontaneous roast dinner was the BEST). There are lots of things that you can do to keep your relationship going too...watching the same TV shows (and in our case, racing to see who can finish them first. Prison Break is MY LIFE. I will definitely win) Also at the moment we're not talking at all on our phones, and instead writing letters to each other for two weeks. (Soppy I know...It's not me, honest).

How I miss sunglasses weather

And don't forget that University holidays are so long, so if you're going to be really far away from each other, it's never too long before another break where you'll both be back home.

Call me an optimist, but of COURSE relationships can work if you're at Uni. If you want to make it work then I'm sure it will :)

I hope you enjoyed this post!

Anna x

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